49When the 4 is the parent
As a parent, a 4 provides. Routines, savings, rules that do not change: children of a 4 feel safe and sometimes boxed in. Loosening the rules now and then is the gift.
As a child, a 9 is old for their age, generous and easily wounded by unfairness. They need to be heard, and to see that the world is not all theirs to fix.